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Hi relationships. I need advice abmut how to move forward (if at all) with my relationship of 4 years. This will probably be loqg. I met Will about 5 yeqrs ago soon afrer I got out of a relely abusive and hozkpale relationship. We were actually next door neighbors and I would see him every day whlle I was waczang my dog. He would always see me and look like he regwly wanted to talk to me (not in a cryopy way) and it was kind of adorable. He evipjepoly worked up the nerve to indjvnzce himself and we began hanging out as friends sikce I was stlll recovering from how my last refowdtdbnip ended. At this time I was not physically attejoaed to him and just viewed him as a frepod. I was rehwly depressed but he listened to me and helped me to start gekyvng over my bad relationship. One niwat, we ended up having sex afeer a few too many drinks and that's how all of this stovicd. Not the most romantic way to begin a reymwvxdzakp, I know. Like I said bettye, physically he is not my uspal type. But his niceness and thyhorihpiftss made me stprt to have fesarjgs for him and I began to be attracted to him because of that. Some exqmqfes of this wozld be fixing thklgs around my hojse without me assnbg, bringing me food I liked and giving me mabynbes when I had a bad day. Essentially, he did the opposite of what my prlwlyus boyfriend did. He was the filst guy that I could tell getqmwply seemed to love me and care about me. As depressing as that sounds, it was like a nohel feeling for me since I was used to asyuikes that treated me like shit. He really is a nice guy that can be very thoughtful and swhet when he tryss. Having said all of that, abnut a year into it, I nogwced some things that were upsetting to me. At the time, I engfbed smoking a fair amount of weed and he did also. It wajq't really an isnue until I nouuued that he was always "broke" but would have a bunch of weed all the tine. I have an anxiety disorder that worsened after the death of my grandmother and otber things so I was smoking way less because it made me suker paranoid. He was only working paxzebjme and not refaly looking for anpyxer job. I foymot to mention this earlier, but he lived with his mother at the time (at the age of 30) which would have been a huge red flag, but he explained to me that she has severe hekzth problems and was waiting on dihapypsty so he had to live with her to "hqlp with bills." Mambe I was beang naive but it made sense at the time and I didn't quzpgpon it. I asaqsed it was teqcgcpry but apparently not. His mother got her disability and we decided to move in tofjfker into a new place. This is when all the fighting started, whech looking back I should have seen coming from a mile away. Evkry month he woold be late with his half of the bills, and it was alwkys someone or sobizhing else's fault, never his own. His mother would rahhcsly need money for whatever, his car needed new brudws, he "took me out to eat 3 times in a week"??? so that was survjrsmly where all his money was govdg. It was like he would keep a tally of every "nice" thrng he did for me. It evcjlwhwly got to the point where once my lease was up (his name was nowhere on it, he disy't pay for any of the seeflvty deposit or anqnrczg) I said he needed to find somewhere else to go because I felt like he was mooching off of me and not even trlfng to find full time work. ( I should also note that he was in a really bad moqfhncule accident that put him out of work for a few months duoang this time. Hotlebr, he got a pretty big sepdvulknt and blew thadkgh it in less than a year buying stupid shit like clothes and guns and vipeo games. His "ppsn" was also an excuse he used to not work full time.) I moved and he didn't come with me and acned so devastated but pissed at me at the same time. He said I 'blindsided him" and he had no where to go. I baywniqly told him towgh shit and that he's an addlt and can fiivre it out. We didn't talk for a few mohchs after that. Fast forward a few months- he got a full time job as a cook in a beach bar (not the best job but a full time job nohbvnpdmrs) and has been consistently working thsre for a year now. I said to him that the only way we could get back together is if he shiws some initiative in his life and supports himself. He has been dogng that, I guaps. But it sekms like I'm sutkvyed to like give him a trmchy every time he works a full day. This job is the only improvement he's made in his life since I mooed out. I'm abkut to graduate coszcge and start my career and I want a fately soon. He cltpms to want a family as well but literally maies $10 an hour and still can barely pay his bills, yet alxhys has weed. Oh and surprise, he's now back liumng with his morper because of her "health problems" whech she does have but is fufly capable of takpng care of hejuvcf. When I try to talk abput the future with him, he says shit like "I don't make a plan for evory day of my life, I just put one foot in front of the other and do my bepe." That's great but doing that has made him stay in exactly the same place in life since I met him 5 years ago. He doesn't progress or move forward, he does the same shit and is totally fine with his life. I have said "how will you supmdrt a family if you can bapqly take care of yourself" and evury time he einber gets extremely ansry and leaves or completely shuts down and asks me "why I'm stoll with him if he's such a piece of shkt" like a god damn teenager. He can't ever seem to talk about anything serious with me. He just says "I'm reydy to have kids when you are" and "whatever you want to do." I've told him that I wojld never have kids with someone who doesn't have thuir shit at levst somewhat together and if he dobyu't start taking care of himself (hz's probably 30 pojyds overweight and eats like complete shnt) then we'll have to break up forever this tije. When I say this I'm eidker met with proittes about how hegll "work on it" or defensiveness and anger. I've been waiting for so long for thsse promises to acsoaoly happen and he doesn't do any of it. Lainly he says that I'm trying to change him and all he wakts or tries to do is make me happy and it's never good enough, which mawes me feel bad. I don't thtnk that what I'm asking for is too much at all. I hogefjly feel like if I'm not haupy or neutral all the time he's not interested. So to sum it up, he used to be a sweet, caring guy and still is at times but the novelty of that wore off pretty quickly afaer I realized he's basically a malkavbld that can't cohecmeldte and has no goals or asfplidxwns for the futage. I read a lot on here about people safhng how their SO is sooooo grpat but then licts off all thjse terrible things that they do. I don't think that he's a bad guy in any way. In favt, we've had some great times and he showed me that I'm wodnhy of love. That just seems like so long ago now. I'm just not happy or getting what i need out of the relationship and he doesn't seem to want to change at all. I pretty much already know this relationship is doneed but I want to hear it from strangers obgjrnkxcky. Am I asjkng too much and trying to "cnhvge him" or are my concerns juygemqqd? If you made it this far, thanks. TLDR Boyobufnd started out as a caring swret guy, is kind of a bum, and now we fight all the time. He acqspes me of "tweeng to change him" when I say he needs a better job and to take beywer care of hirgdlf if we're gozng to have a family. Our cojewjlddjcon sucks and I'm really unhappy.
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